“Rabbit’s clever,” said Pooh thoughtfully.
“Yes,” said Piglet, “Rabbit’s clever.”
“And he has Brain.”
“Yes,” said Piglet, “Rabbit has Brain.”
There was a long silence.
“I suppose,” said Pooh, “that that’s why he never understands anything.”
– A. A. Milne ~ Winnie-The-Pooh
Just a thought tonight.
(And who wouldn’t want to hear a quote from Winnie the Pooh and Ghandi in the same post?!)
We do this to ourselves and mostly others convince us of this…be perfect. Be disappointed in yourself if you are not perfect. Wow, how messed up! I do this to myself in my art…trying to make it perfect, but why? Will it be worth more? Or is it just to make me feel better about myself…make it look like I tried harder, but only to myself. When I just have to look at my painting and say Yeah, looks pretty damn good and I’m done. Sign it and it’s over.
Some are so busy trying to be perfect that they self-destruct or fail miserably. They are so consumed with their perfection they would rather lose a relationship, lose respect or lose composure than to be seen as imperfect.
For others sometimes I see this fear they have of what “they”, will think of them. “They” can be family, friends or people you don’t even know. I see people judge and be judged all the time. Hell, I see it on Facebook daily…wear this…this job is better than yours…you can’t be in this type of relationship…you must believe my religion…you must vote for my guy…the “you are wrong I am right” attitude. How pompous! They don’t say these things because they care or really want to give guidance. This person can believe what they want, but they don’t need to impose it on others to make you perfect in their eyes. People want to tell you how to live your life; if what you do is acceptable to them. If you allow them to run your life, first they will feel they need to control everyone else in their lives in the same manner, and second you will not be living your own life. This person cannot tell you how to dress, what job you should have, who to vote for, what God to believe in, how much money you should make, or what relationship is perfect for you in their eyes. You live this life to be happy…to love yourself…to love others…a self-satisfying life. Don’t question yourself because of the intrusion of others thoughts, live your life according to your own beliefs and believe me happiness and inner peace will prevail.
We need to be creative to the best of our abilites…be productive in all that we do….live a life that completes us. And just stop and be satisfied that we have done our best according to ourselves, be happy with what decisions we make and know we don’t have to be perfect. We can make mistakes and still succeed knowing we were prolific and not perfect.
And yep, be happy with the work we did, sign the painting and move on.
A “No” uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a “Yes” merely uttered to please,
or what is worse, to avoid trouble.